tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3853913765851768901.post4015933854093894149..comments2023-10-30T07:37:54.529-04:00Comments on For The Love of Dominance: The porn issue...MistressDelilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16170741536448910741noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3853913765851768901.post-83857571636028695852011-10-19T05:16:41.387-04:002011-10-19T05:16:41.387-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3853913765851768901.post-83309450559677903692011-08-09T21:07:28.973-04:002011-08-09T21:07:28.973-04:00Thanks for the comment, Tom. Sorry it took so long...Thanks for the comment, Tom. Sorry it took so long to answer. <br /><br />I'm not surprised to hear of evidence linking porn to a decrease in violence. I think it can be very cathartic.<br /><br />And I agree that viewing porn is not any different than viewing the tons of other media images...both the good and the bad. After all, there is no shortage of connections between the impossible standards of beauty and fitness presented on TV and in movies and the growing number of health problems and body image problems that people suffer.<br /><br />Where porn is different is that it is about sex and sex is a primary means by which people relate to someone they love. So whereas we look at pictures of the perfect human body and feel bad about ourselves in comparison, when we internalize porn, we are also internalizing images and attitudes about our closest personal relationship.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09045808383002997129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3853913765851768901.post-61463989725142741222011-08-06T10:03:43.742-04:002011-08-06T10:03:43.742-04:00Jeezus, this kind of association just irritates th...Jeezus, this kind of association just irritates the hell out of me. <br /><br />A couple of years ago, I actually read someplace (too lazy/busy to find it now) that moderate porn viewing actually serves to *reduce* violence because it has a calming effect on some men. Tech/Sex/geek blogger Violet Blue probably has a ton of links on this.<br /><br />That said, let's look at the idea that porn gives unrealistic expectations. It's quite possible that some people develop skewed ideas after a diet of Playboy, but can't we say the same thing about pretty much *everything* in the mass media? Do we expect all of our McBurgers to be big, juicy patties? Do we expect every appliance that we buy will last forever and make us the envy of our social crowd? Does every woman develop body issues because of Victoria's Secret commercials? Does every man feel fat and useless after watching the latest Brad Pitt movie?<br /><br />Images in the media are always portraying, if not the ideal, then something that is to be desired by (presumably) the majority of the market population. But somehow, most of us learn to differentiate between unrealistic expectations and the achievable. Viewing porn is -- or shouldn't be -- any different.Tom Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04208222697436091267noreply@blogger.com